Dear Black Woman,
We live in a society that forces us to have our own back. We put up a wall to protect ourselves and the ones we love. As a result society refers to us as “masculine” or “mad”. Battling against a stigma created before our time. Minority of a minority; one of the loneliness and most misunderstood groups of people on this earth. And because we’re not only black, but women, no one cares to ask why. Why do we feel the need to defend ourselves always, why do we put up a facade of anger when in fact, we are one of the most, if not the most, nurturing creatures on this earth. Instead, the world avoids us, even our own, birthed from our wombs, looks down upon us, speaks against us, redirects love away from us.
Fustration birth from betrayal; we’re hurt. Unheard because as a woman we are to be “seen and not heard”. Carrying the world on our shoulders, mentally, physically, and spiritually, and in turn, the world spits on us, including the ones we fight most for. Many of us have lost that gentleness God requires of us because we’re hurt; some of us have never even known it. Everyday is a fight. You’re tired. I get it, I am you, so hear me when I say, we don’t have to feel this way anymore. Reject all stigma regarding you as a black woman and forgive the ignorance of the world. It’s time to live as the woman God has called you to be. Today, you’re turning over a new leaf.
Here’s the solution:
Prioritize your relationship with God
Be true to yourself
Learn & believe the truth spoken over your life (Read the bible)
Find your purpose in the Lord
Aim to please the Lord over anyone else
Live righteously; create “the happy life” through Christ
Don’t cast your pearls amongst swine (Mathew 7:6)
Remember Whose you are
Keep in mind:
They may not be checking for you, that means they’re not meant for you. Don’t chase who’s walked away from you, if they could walk away, they were never meant for you (1 John 2:19). What’s meant for you, you will never have to chase. Don’t act out of desperation, remember God is in control. Though the world may be against you, God be for you. Trust in God’s plans for your life. Leave the past in the past, keep moving forward. Remain present, don’t wish to be anywhere other than where you currently are; here is holy. The process may not be enjoyable all the time, but it will darn sure be purposeful. Most importantly, remember that you are loved beyond your understanding.
Scripture to reflect on:
Mathew 7:6:
Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
1 Corinthians 7:17:
Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
1 Timothy 6:11:
But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.
1 John 2:19:
They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us.
